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• Me and Mine...

  Posted: September 20, 2007, 1:06 am by BC.W

  Talk about a crazy life. I started a blog with every intention of keeping at it, then I go and get a new job that takes over my life. C'est la vie. (Note that I think kindergarten rocked...I played, was fed and slept, then was picked up to go home to play, be fed and sleep.)
  
  Anyway, the time between my last post and now has been one of lessons...life lessons. So today I'll talk about my friends...a continuation from the me post. My friends are like family, they all laugh with me, they all cry with me...so I don't have distinctions like 'the confidante', 'the shopping friend', 'the clubbing pal'...etc. They all are unique, but in deeper ways.
  
  Friend A: She's the sweet one who I believe if ever there was a Prince Charming, she'd have dibs on him. She's the one who, not so much looks at the bright side of life, but knows that 'these things too shall come to pass'. She celebrates my achievements more than I do. She's a real gem. She loves to shop and is down for a plan anytime. She's highly ambitious. Loves so purely.
  
  Friend B: She's my partner in crime. If I have anything mischievious up my sleeve, she's the one to call. She argues like a lawyer, reads as much as I do, talks nearly as much as I do. She shares in my sarcasm, and more often than not (just like me) applies logic to a situation before emotion. She's not cold..nowhere near. Totally reliable, guards our friendship like a lioness does her cubs. She does not beat about the bush...and her tough love is like no other.
  
  Friend C: I tell him all the time that we need to stop hanging out because it seems he can tell the difference between lilac and mauve. (Yes I have apologised for that to the male race over and over) He's a hand to hold, a shoulder. He's macho, yes (I'm sure that's what he'd want me to say), but such a lamb too. Pushes me to dream even bigger than I thought I could...and is there on the sidelines cheering me on. He's the twin brother I never had.
  
  Friend D: My kindred spirit. The one who'll go through something that I've gone through, or vice versa. Has happened everytime that we use our lives as each others' checklists. No we don't, but we well could. She's the one who knows that I'm trying to be strong for everyone else (because she'd do the same thing) and chastises me...BC, you can't be it for the world, so stop trying. She's crazy in a good way..and so terribly independent it's amazing. Independent as defined in this post. Her life's a miracle, her drive awe-inspiring. We've fought, and made up and now we're old enough to realise what we mean to each other.
  
  Friend E: Been friends most of my life. An awesome heart she has. I don't have to see her or talk to her everyday, but when we get together...it's like time hasn't past. We never lost touch, my new friends fit in with her new friends. She's had it tough at home and healthwise. But the zeal with which she conquers life is great. She's such a tower of strength and now that we're both all grown up (well, grown up) it's amazing to look back and see from whence we've come.
  
  Friend F: He's the only guy friend I've ever had to stop being friends with because of his girlfriend. He's changed alot. I don't see much of him. The strange thing is that when we do meet (we run in same circles), we carry on as were. But I don't like that kind of friendship. Conditional friendship. So we'll see where that goes. (I guess that I write about him means I'm not ready to let it go...lol)
  
  There's four more to tell about. The one thing they all have in common is that they have great hearts. Plus they all get along...I can hang with A and F and they get on like a house on fire. We make sure that we atleast meet once a month, we invest well together. They're my first thought as sounding boards. Their careers are as different as day and night. There's a pilot, a doctor, a lawyer (no, not B), a programmer...
  
  I now realise why each is in my life, and I wouldn't have it any other way...
  
  Lovely day people...

• Perfectly imperfect...

  Posted: July 23, 2007, 12:12 am by BC.W

  I got Ne-yo’s ‘Because of you’ album this weekend and this song has been on my repeat list since.
  
  Make it Work. Lyrics here…
  
  This song appealed to me, not because it’s all romantic etc, but because it applies to most relationships we have…not just the kind the song refers to.
  
  I know that a major misconception I had about relationships is that they were easy. I figured that if you love someone, everything else falls into place. How wrong I was.
  
  In all relationships, work has to be done to sustain them. I’ve had my fair share of friendships where ‘said friends’ would leave the work up to me. And woe unto you if your significant other leaves your relationship’s sustenance to you alone.
  
  This can only be as good as we both make it
  Guess sometimes its gonna hurt (yes sometimes its gonna hurt)
  We can be as happy as we want to be girl
  But we gotta make it work
  
  No one person is perfect. Everyone brings their blend of special to a relationship. I've learned that love is not a noun in relationships; it’s a verb. I have to constantly work on my relationships. And I then realized that I had to rewrite my opinions about relationships (all kinds); they can't be perfect because imperfect people cannot have a perfect relationship…but they can have a perfectly imperfect relationship.
  
  Sometimes i love you
  More than you'll ever know
  Other times you get on my nerves (hey)
  That's just reality
  No, it can't always be
  Kisses, hugs, and beautiful words
  
  ……
  
  Thick and thin, (ooh)
  The bad outweighs the good sometimes
  That doesn't mean we're 'spose to give it up
  My problems are yours, and yours are mine
  
  Fights don’t mean that you don't love each other or that the relationship shouldn’t be. They are just signs to show you the areas in your relationship that need more work and they show that you both have some more growing to do in those areas.
  
  And that doesn’t mean that you hold on to all relationships because you believe that they can be worked on. Some people are meant to be in your life for only a season...when their time is done, let them go. I’ve let go of people I’ve known for years…thing is, I wasn’t supposed to know them for years. Not easy to accept, but it’s necessary. Else you’ll keep disappointing and getting disappointed.
  
  Why can’t we all just get along? Maybe because sometimes, we’re just not meant to…
  
  Lovely week people…

• Make that choice..

  Posted: July 16, 2007, 4:57 am by BC.W

  
  Mzalendo gives such a startling revelation here. I mean, I knew they were lazy but it seems I had given them too much leeway. Out of a general assembly that is over 200 members strong, a committee of ten cannot raise the quorum of three? How is it that these people intend to get my vote this year? Unfortunately, they might get votes. Lazy they may be, cunning they definitely are. Who wouldn't want a job that pays a fortune and has no accountability? There are members in the august house who are yet to make maiden speeches, let alone raise/contribute to pertinent issues concerning the reason they are there. Believe me, I am now wiser.
  
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  I recently listened to girls about my age (and I use the term ‘girls’ loosely seeing as they are all into their twenties) talk about their lives and decisions they make on life. It honestly could leave one banging their heads against a wall! These intelligent young women came from favourable backgrounds and had/have access to whatever they might need. Yet, the message of being the independent young woman was lost on them. Independence…what exactly does this word mean? The Oxford Dictionary defines independence as not being dependent on another for livelihood or subsistence, capable of thinking or acting for one’s self.
  
  I am writing about young ladies whom life has smiled upon, who had and continue have access to good facilities, both academic and otherwise. Life is a learning process. Unfortunately, we choose not to learn from life. How many ladies have put their faith in marrying into families of great wealth hence not work hard at building themselves up? How many choose to listen to lies about themselves repeatedly? How many choose not to move on when life deals them a hard blow? How many figure that that silver platter will not one day become empty?
  
  There are so many opportunities for us to do so much more than we think we can. How many have thought about investing? Do you think you are too young? Further education? Starting up businesses but do not do so because they procrastinate? Or they don’t think they can? Yes, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Make that choice. However, the journey needs many more steps to be completed. The thought process was the first step. Make a plan and jot it down. Finances might not be available but you would be surprised at the number of people who share your dream. Take advantage of opportunities that may come along your way. If you have a knack for fashion design and your church is having a fashion show, design something! People are discovered in the strangest ways.
  
  Keep your eye on the goal and do not limit yourself. You will never know what YOU are capable of until you try.
  
  I'm probably being unfair when I talk about ladies from favourable backgrounds, but hear me out. They have the privilege of having the resources. With those from less favourable backgrounds, there are so many success stories about ladies who rose above their circumstances and I am NOT the least bit qualified to tell them what to do. The examples speak for themselves, and what great examples they are. Look at Tegla Loroupe.
  
  Ladies, you are not too young to take control of your lives now (younger is even better). A single step yes, but followed by many crucial steps. Patience, a healthy dose of self-esteem and lots of determination will see you through. What we have to do is to resolve to get it done.
  
  We have such great women to emulate; let us make it such that our daughters will say that they too have great ladies to emulate in us.
  
  Have a lovely week people..

• Me

  Posted: July 13, 2007, 6:16 pm by BC.W

  My first post…
  
  (Drum roll please…)
  
  I want my first post to be about me. Who am I?
  
  I am a daughter. I am a sister. I am a friend. I am a dreamer. I am a realist. I look for the good in people but I don’t let them in too close. I am loyal. When I love, I do so completely…the same for when I hurt. I love the innocence of children and wish they didn’t have to grow up in this world. But I’m glad that they do grow up for then, they might make a difference. I love the sound of a baby’s chuckle.
  
  I wish more people would read the book THEN watch the movie. Play the right tune and I’ll dance up a storm. Play the right tune and it’ll totally mellow me. I am not a fan of TV. I’d like to see a government where the average age of its ministers isn’t 60. I’d love to see voters elect their leaders based on the issues affecting them, not the tribe they belong to. And on that note, I’d greatly love to see a general assembly that actually cares for its electorate.
  
  The sight of a full moon on a clear night still amazes me…God sure can show off sometimes. I almost let go off a dream because I thought I couldn’t attain it. My parents are my role models…both in life and in love. I’ve learnt quite a bit of life’s lessons, the easy way and the hard way. I know not to take my health for granted. I know who my real friends are. An evening in curled up with a good book…bliss. I can talk up a storm.
  
  Sometimes I’m shy. I’ve learnt just how hard facing up to the truth really is. I know that God can’t lead me to the wolves and leave me there alone…He always has a plan. I know not to care what certain people think…some opinions are totally unnecessary. I love to laugh. I talk to my sisters everyday. I cry when I watch sad movies. Family is important……………..
  
  To be continued later.
  Have a lovely day people…

• Me

  Posted: July 7, 2007, 2:17 am by BC.W

  My first post…
  
  (Drum roll please…)
  
  I want my first post to be about me.
  
  Who am I?
  
  I am a daughter. I am a sister. I am a friend. I am a dreamer. I am a realist. I look for the good in people but I don’t let them in too close. I am loyal. When I love, I do so completely…the same for when I hurt. I love the innocence of children and wish they didn’t have to grow up in this world. But I’m glad that they do grow up for then, they might make a difference. I love the sound of a baby’s chuckle.
  
  I wish more people would read the book THEN watch the movie. Play the right tune and I’ll dance up a storm. Play the right tune and it’ll totally mellow me. I am not a fan of TV. I’d like to see a government where the average age of its ministers isn’t 60. I’d love to see voters elect their leaders based on the issues affecting them, not the tribe they belong to. And on that note, I’d greatly love to see a general assembly that actually cares for its electorate.
  
  The sight of a full moon on a clear night still amazes me…God sure can show off sometimes. I almost let go off a dream because I thought I couldn’t attain it. My parents are my role models…both in life and in love. I’ve learnt quite a bit of life’s lessons, the easy way and the hard way. I know not to take my health for granted. I know who my real friends are. An evening in curled up with a good book…bliss. I can talk up a storm.
  
  Sometimes I’m shy. I’ve learnt just how hard facing up to the truth really is. I know that God can’t lead me to the wolves and leave me there alone…He always has a plan. I know not to care what certain people think…some opinions are totally unnecessary. I love to laugh. I talk to my sisters everyday. I cry when I watch sad movies. Family is important……………..
  
  To be continued later.
  Have a lovely day people…

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